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Love is such an interesting phenomenon: it’s beautiful, it’s healing, it’s powerful, it’s inspiring, it’s energizing, it’s tempting, it’s contagious and… it’s scary – all at the same time! And the good news is that it is easier to love than to hate! Truly. Have you ever noticed how you feel when you hate… versus when you love? Have you ever noticed how tight your body is when you send meanness, anger or other negative feelings… versus how incredibly flowing and light your entire being feels when you send love?

To get a real visual of this, go in front of a mirror and say “I love you” — see what happens. Watch your face, your eyes. Do the same thing now, but say “I hate you” — see the difference?

Interesting.

And guess what? People you think about in a loving way WILL feel your love and the effect will be the same on them than when you say “I love you” to yourself in the mirror. And you got it: same result happens when you have negative or mean thoughts about/towards someone.

Interesting.

The amount of energy it takes to be resentful or angry towards a person or a situation is 10 times more the energy than to keep our heart open and work through the ‘glitches’. This is where forgiveness comes into play.

There is so much to talk about on the fascinating and powerful subject of FORGIVENESS. I will not go into too many details here – Doug and I will be sharing tips on how to transform toxic relationships into harmonious ones, during the next Radio TalkShow on Tuesday (5:30 to 6pm MTN time – see details below).

However, there is one important element about forgiveness that is often overlooked and needs a constant reminder:

the one who chooses not to forgive
is the one who ends up suffering the most.

This week’s purposeful practice will create massive changes in your own heart and life… as well as in the life of others:

• MAKING THIS PRACTICE A PART OF ‘YOUR‘LIFE:

Think about one person you have a struggling relationship with right now (your spouse, one of your children, a brother, a parent, a colleague, a business partner, a neighbour?). You have two choices about the situation: to be right and stay in the suffering of an unhealthy relationship… or to bathe yourself (as well as the parties involved) in the healing energy of forgiveness.

This week, I am committing to live with a forgiving heart. I will:

1. Ask for Forgiveness…
… to those I love and know I have hurt. It is powerful to express the fact that I didn’t do what I did, or said what I said, with the intention to hurt*.
*If you have… please go to point 3 first – then come back here.

2. Forgive those who have hurt me…
… I understand that forgiving doesn’t mean I agree with what happened or what was said. I am simply opening the flow of love for deeper healing and, therefore, freedom.

3. AND, most importantly… Forgive myself!
Examples:
… for not saying “YESSS!” when what I asked for shows up;
… for giving up on my dreams;
… for over-eating when I’m stressed;
… for blaming others (or the system) for my lack of success;
… for spending money on ‘stuff’ to fill the void in my heart;
… for judging others to avoid looking at my own darkness;
… for comparing myself to others;
… for spreading bad rumours about other people;
… for using sex to ‘feel loved’;
… for sabotaging my success (in health, finances and/or relationships)
… for not seeing the absolutely Divine and Perfect being that I am;
… for being distracted from my purpose;
… for being an angry, jealous, non-supportive spouse, friend, colleague or other;
…
and the list goes on.

Take a moment to connect with the areas that need healing in YOUR life.

**Once you have forgiven yourself, DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT in the area you just brought healing to through the power of forgiveness! – If you are having trouble doing so, reach out and ask for support and guidance.
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YOU ARE NOT ALONE:
We are doing it – we are living it – and WE’RE HERE TO SUPPORT YOU!
Use our Radio Talkshow for additional support: www.blogtalkradio.com/thelovearmy

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Our next Radio Talkshow:
Tuesday, Feb. 9th, 2010 from 5:30 to 6pm (MTN time)
Join us on air by calling (347) 215-8883
or click here to listen in: “PURPOSEFUL LOVE – Going Heart-Coeur”

HAVE FUN with this practice!
We love you,
Stéphanie and Doug

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PPS: Remember to keep applying all practices. The ‘weekly’ practice is not something we just do during that one week… it is a LIFESTYLE
PPPS: you are welcome to leave a comment below, a question or an idea in regards to this practice: