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It is hard enough to feel my own pain – you may say. And I agree. However, once one has learned the art to be intimate with their own feelings, there is really not much difference between the happy and the sad ones… It is simply a matter of opening our heart to what is – feel it and express it, so that healing can occur.

UNNECESSARY HURT…

When I arrived in my new home on Monday (Doug and I have now built ‘our’ nest), after a 2-week stay with my parents in “Sweet-zerland”, I was somewhat ‘forced’ to face some of the repercussions of Doug’s choice to move on with his life and rebuild after a divorce.

Since Doug and I announced our entering into a committed and exclusive relationship, our rapport with his four children has been rather tough and distant. While I’ve always respected their desire to not be part of our new love journey, it has, ultimately, broken my heart; yet I’ve chosen not to express my feelings to them. You see, I have never gone through the craving of being a mother, though the Universe always served me with many opportunities to use the mothers’ skills of loving, caring and nurturing. Welcoming four little angels in my life was simply, to me, another surprise and gift of the Universe.

FEAR OF LOSS…

This challenge with the children was about to lead me to something much deeper that I had yet to discover:

The whole day (whole week I should say) prior to arriving home that night, a series of events occurred that connected me with a deep fear in my heart to lose this BIG LOVE that I am now blessed with.

Doug and I had been apart for only a short week (I stayed in Switzerland longer than he did) and both flew home on separate flights. While I usually sleep relatively well on the airplane, I was not able to rest on this flight, which, as a result, made this trip back home seem the longest ever!!! I was so excited to come back home, back to my lover and start our new life in our new ‘chez-nous’.

The thoughts of never arriving (yes… plane crash!!) were coming in and out of my mind. My heart was crushed with the idea of possibly not having more time to indulge in this BIG LOVE. To add to this, I ended up watching 2 movies during the flight: “The Atonement” and “PS: I love you” (which I had seen already!) – both powerful and profound movies about two lovers that are separated and unable to live their BIG LOVE together.

All was leading me to connect with my fear of losing Doug… a fear that, consciously, I had not be aware of.

THE TRUTH LEADS TO MORE TRUTH…

For the past few months, my heart has been bleeding watching my man going through a tremendous amount of suffering created by unhealthy “after divorce” family dynamics.

Despite my tired state upon arrival from my trip that evening, an opportunity arose to speak to one of the children. The conversation ended up not being of the calmest and most pleasant, however, it seemed that the time had been divinely orchestrated to express some of my feelings – and I did. This interaction led to an explosion of tears of sadness and fear of loss that were stored in this beautiful young man’s heart.

I felt his pain as if it were mine!

… THEN TO HEALING

Seeing and connecting with this child’s fear of losing his dad (because of Doug’s new relationship with me) allowed me to not only feel his pain, but to connect with my own pain – and, later on during the night, to express it through deep, profound spasms of release… That night, I went through a healing spill that allowed me to cry out my own fear of losing Doug! My heart was in fact crying for both his son and myself! It was a magical and powerful healing moment.

It is one thing to miss something or someone with our head… but a whole new experience to miss it with our whole body and soul!

I am thankful to have had a chance to explore this young man’s heart, which connected me to what was really going on, unconsciously, in my own heart.

May you open your heart to your truth… feel it, express it and trust that healing will take place.

Truthfully yours,

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11:30am EST time: we will be landing in Toronto in a couple of hours. As I am journeying back ‘home’ to Calgary from my homeland of “Sweet-zerland”, I am opening my heart to the little fear that is teasing my stomach.

I typically meditate on, ask guidance and pray for clarity about my decisions and actions towards my next steps in relationships or in business. This allows me to stay on purpose, avoid distractions and prevent sabotage patterns that could keep me from offering my gift and/or living fully.

Today, it is a new type of prayer that I making: I am asking to be given the strength to do nothing (no ‘thing’)!

A new life is awaiting me in my country by adoption: a totally unknown and unpredictable future… how adventurous! My heart is full of joy and excitement. The journey of self-discovery, self-exploration and self-healing that I’ve been on these past 5 years lead me to, at last, manifest exactly what I wanted (the passionate, loving, fun and juicy relationship that I’ve talked so much about). With this blessing comes a new sense of peace that my heart is pleased to -finally- experience.

… And with this new sense of peace comes the delightful, yet oh so scary at times when one is used to be the typical ‘strong independent woman’, journey to total surrender to LOVE.*

* “Conversations With A Healed Heart” - a spiritual guide for men and women to total surrender to love is my upcoming book. Stay tuned…

I am not sure what exactly the next few months will look like now that I have the full commitment of my marvellous life partner to support me in all of my passions:

… There are a few “PMS for MEN & WOMEN” events scheduled (full schedule available on the website). Coming soon:

·      The next 1-day ‘taster’ is in Calgary, AB on Sat., June 21^st
… and you can receive FREE TUITION (valued at $497)* to this event, simply by claiming your VIP Pass online today: http://www.emerge-and-see.com/pms/pms101.php

*A $49+gst admin fee will be charged at time of reservation – non refundable.

·      A 2-day intensive on POWER in Atlanta, GA the weekend of July 19-20, 2008  …call or email us for details.

… There are a couple of e-books on the go (beside the main book I’ve been working on lately)

… There are some Audio CD’s that are ‘cooking’

As you see, I am working on quite a few exciting projects… and the intention to ‘not do anything’ is the secret. It is actually about doing ONLY the things that I love… when I want to and feel most inspired!

How’s that for a schedule??? 

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My parents are so kind, loving, generous, fun, thoughtful, enthusiastic, considerate and… IN LOVE. It is a real treat and always so inspiring to spend some time with them! They are the perfect example of kindness and of a respectful, harmonious couple. When I hang out with them, it is like being at the ‘University of Relationships’ – I learn a lot!

I woke up at 3:45am this morning and spent the last 45 minutes that I had at ‘home’ (at my parents’ in beautiful ‘Sweet-zerland’), lying down in my bed listening to the concert of the birds and the bells from the church. I contemplated the amazing time that I spent with my family these past two weeks. I am so blessed and thankful for the genuine, deep and loving connection that I have with everyone!

Taking the time to be… to feel… I did a lot of that during the past 2 weeks. I surrendered to the care of my family and friends and simply indulged in their love. I feel refreshed and recharged!

May we never forget the importance of recharging

our own batteries, so that we can give again!

So, after this well-deserved break, I am ready to ‘go back at it’ and give all that I have again – to my wonderful man and to anyone who crosses my path and wants my love, my knowledge and wisdom.

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The 1-day seminar for women that one of my contacts here in Switzerland organized and was scheduled today ended up being cancelled. Trusting that things happen (or don’t) for a reason, I took advantage of this ‘day off’ to offer my love and support to my mother who was not feeling well after her accident yesterday.

Talk about a “WOMEN’S” day!!

Also, tonight, instead of going out dancing (I looooooooove dancing!!), I chose to stay home and played cards with my parents. It was good to play… to laugh… to be with them, fully – simply. I can go dancing anytime, but spending time with my parents is once a year…

FROM DOUG’S HEART:

My beautiful Stéphanie is like a Swiss watch – a lot of care, craft, and intelligence goes into design and development.

It’s May 14^th, the day before Stéphanie’s birthday: I’ve now met her parents, her brother and family, her two sisters and their families – as well as the many, many friends still living in the surrounding villages. Within a few days of being in Switzerland, I came to a deep understanding of the ingredients that went into making Stéphanie this beautiful woman she is today. I thought I was passionately in love with the Stéphanie I met in Calgary on June 23^rd, 2007 at 8:27 PM at a ranch party in Priddis, Alberta. However, my love for her has gone to a new orgasmic level this week because I saw what made this woman have:

·         The ability to light up a city block with her presence and energy;

·         The power to fill a room with ALL of who she is;

·         The strength to live her life to the fullest;

·         The command to magnetically attract people and abundance;

·         The capacity to live intelligently and intuitively in all situations; and,

·         The gift to live an enlightened and spiritual life.

What were those ingredients?

J Deep family connections - It starts in her parents and family who simply know how to build family and deep, powerful, fun and celebratory connections;

J Creative influences – It’s in the influences on her life at very early stages from singing to dancing, to just being Stéphanie and giving it all in everything she has ever done;

J Memorable accomplishments – starring in school musical productions from a very young age, singing and touring with accomplished music bands at age 17, singing on television shows, etc.

J The power of community  - It’s in the culture and community – where people value people;

J Living life from the heart - It’s in the majestic, luscious hills and mountains of the Switzerland countryside that were deposited in her spirit – this calls her to living life fully, from the heart, as a gift to the world;

J Add to this… the years she spent in Canada further developing body, mind and spirit – it all mixes into this dynamo of a petite Swiss French girl that will not stop; it gives her the creative spark she needs to be truly Stéphanie. Her laughter, her passion, her spirit, her joy, how she fills ALL of life with ALL of who she is… she truly is a gift, not only to me, but to the world.

Doug

FROM DOUG’S HEART:

What a thrill to finally meet Stéphanie’s parents and family in Switzerland. Stéphanie and I departed Calgary, May 8^th, early in the morning, and landed in Zurich,  May 9^th, early the next morning. However, my thrill to come and visit her homeland was mixed with some apprehension: not only was I unfamiliar with the French language of Stéphanie’s family, but they don’t speak a word of English! So, how does a man impress the woman he loves so passionately in a situation like this? I am here for only 10 days… this doesn’t give me a lot of time to learn the language!!

Well, here’s how I faced the situation:

For the first couple of days here, our connection has been around the basic words of communication: “Bonjour”, “Comment ca va?”, “Très bien”, “Merci”, and few phrases Stéphanie taught me, such as “Tu as bien dormi?” etc.

However, the most important development over the next several days was discovering the art and beauty of communicating without understanding the language. Using the hands, smiles, gestures, it was quite powerful how we communicated from the heart to the heart.

Stéphanie’s father very patiently and diligently taught me simple words and phrases. What a patient man! And slowly, with Stéphanie’s help, I graduated from these simple phrases and gestures to ‘complex’ phrases to Stéphanie’s parents and family on her birthday, such as: “J’aimerais marier votre fille et votre sœur.” Yes, I officially announced our plans to be married on her birthday in Switzerland!!  They didn’t throw me out of their house… I think that they understood me  

We were not speaking the same language, yet the love that was transmitted between us all was very much understood and felt. I realized quickly that there was nothing I had to be, do, have or say to ‘impress’ my woman. LOVE is the only thing that impresses Stéphanie!

Doug

Doug and I woke up with our hearts feeling wonder-FULL after having launched the “PMS for MEN & WOMEN^TM” event series yesterday.

We reflected on the beautiful day we spent in the company of our “PMS” participants on Saturday and we were simply in awe with the amount of sharings, learnings, friendships, support, encouragement and love we experienced throughout the whole day.

Yes, Saturday, May 3^rd,
was a BIG DAY for me!

The DREAM and the VISION that I’ve had in my heart for a few years now became a REALITY:

I am in front of a room packed of wonderful people, doing what I love and am passionate about (teaching about LOVE) AND… my wonderful man is standing by my side!

Every single detail was just as I had imagined it!

·    Our intention was to have between 20 and 30 people for this first event… 48 men and women joined us!

·    A fabulous team of volunteer staff offered their support – THANK YOU to all of you for your contribution, your efforts and for sharing your heart with our participants.

·    The sound… the room… the energy… the participation… the fun… the sharings…

EVERYTHING was simply PERFECT!

My word for you:

NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR VISION AND YOUR DREAM!

The clearer you are about it – the faster it can come to you!

… and it WILL come to you EXACTLY as you requested it,
so “be careful what you wish for”!

YOU WON’T WANT TO MISS OUR NEXT EVENT on June 21^st!

We are excited to announce the next taster of our “PMS for MEN & WOMEN 101” ‘playshop’, which will be held in Calgary one more time.

–> Remember, MAY 3rd was SOLD OUT!!!!
SO BOOK YOUR SEAT NOW!

 Claim your
VIP Pass and obtain FREE TUITION (Value $497)
to this event:
Simply go to: http://www.emerge-and-see.com/pms/pms101.php
A $49 gst admin fee will be required at time of reservation (non-refundable).

This is what some of the participants said about our first event:

“Stéphanie has a wonderful and compassionate understanding of people and relationships. Listening to her wisdom disarms my fear and inspires me to work for a better life. Doug gives honest insight into men’s issues and practical, sincere advice.” – Rebecca R., Calgary, AB, May 3, 2008

“I really enjoyed the course and gained some valuable insights into my relationship with myself and my relationship with my wife.” – Rick S., Calgary, AB – May 3, 2008

“I loved the ‘dance’ that Stéphanie and Doug do on stage. It really is powerful to have the female and male perspectives. Thank you for stepping outside of the box and sharing your passion.” – Jeanne L., Calgary, AB – May 3, 2008

“Very helpful processes of understanding relationship dynamics! You stirred up some thoughts toward healing myself from within. The insights you brought about the masculine and feminine energies – top-notch!” – Ron P., Calgary, AB – May 3, 2008

“Stéphanie, Doug – you are awesome! You both give from your heart. You have so much to teach people about relationships. I can see you can expand on what you are teaching as your love grows. I was thrilled to be part of the workshop. It has given me and my husband tools to work with and change our relationship. I’m excited about where this can take us.” – Reneé D., Calgary, AB – May 3, 2008

“I wanted to say thank you for the “PMS for MEN & WOMEN 101’ taster you offered on May 3^rd. You two make a really great team! I think it’s really effective to receive your teaching from a couple who is actually living it. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience. You are really authentic and generous in your speaking.”
-– R. Rowley, Calgary, AB – May 4, 2008